At my age, more and more of my friends are getting into committed relationships. Some are getting married and, scarier still, having children. My observation is that this trend tends to excite all of my female friends, while simultaneously terrifying the guys. Discussions of ?Who?s next?? pop up at baby showers and wedding receptions, and the same question resonates at the back of my own mind when lying next to my girlfriend at night.
First of all, I?m 24. Historically, a guy my age would have been married for a couple years by now and would have spawned a small family. However, in the wonderful age we live in, starting a family can be delayed all the way into your balding years. My dad?s almost fifty, has just been remarried, and is trying to have more kids. The bracket of socially acceptable ages for matrimonial eligibility is maturing. This, in my books, is good news. I come from a sexually chaotic age demographic. And being a college graduate, I?m leaving behind a world of experimentation, freedom, and emotional ignorance. The world of the college male is an exciting, unrealistic one, filled with drunken, misguided, and often hilarious experiences. Ladies, if you?re involved with a college or university-bound guy, be prepared for a rough ride. In my experience, no relationships that start before college survive the first year. However, if you are with a guy after college, I find that your odds are drastically improved. Your man has his eyes on new prizes, and his entire value system has evolved (as far as you?re concerned ? for the better). Personally, I went from being concerned exclusively with my guitar and traveling to expanding my freelance design business and creating a professional name for myself.
Which value system, as a woman, would you prefer? The trick is to look less at the man himself, and more at what he?s looking for in his life. Your clues for emotional readiness will stem from his observed maturity, and where he?s going with his life. Be as objective as possible in your analysis. If he?s still playing Halo five nights a week and working as a pizza delivery boy, he?s not taking himself very seriously. So what makes you think he?ll take you seriously?
To summarize, there?s a lot to be said for the end of school. I?ve found that male emotional readiness matures more rapidly after college, once new life goals have taken root. A great indicator of emotional sincerity is the man?s occupation. If he?s taking his job seriously, he will also be more likely to take you seriously.
Ryan Lowe
Graphic and Web Designer
Site-Hive Creative Services
http://www.site-hive.com
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